"The Story of the Same" points out the loss of each family...Advisor Psychologist: Only by accepting the loss of life can you see love

. When Ms. Cai came to pay her condolences, the two met unexpectedly for the first time, and finally they met unexpectedly in the temple. Miss Cai said that grandpa did not dare to say to his grandpa during his lifetime, and instead of grandpa, "Telling love, thanks, apologizing, and saying goodbye" to his grandpa. Grandpa did not tell the truth until the day of his death: it was Su Ying who stole the land deed seal. In order to make his grandpa have a family to rely on, neither father nor husband told the truth. The madam suddenly realized: it turned out that her husband's departure was not because he didn't love him, but because he wanted to escape from the family's evaluation and his verbal words. It is to avoid being stuck between my husband and my parents' home.

Originally, when my eldest daughter thought that cancer was "you only got cancer in the same black and white as your father." This is a kind of saying that it is very tolerant of cancer. But after learning that the eldest daughter's cancer had recurred, after talking to Ms. Cai, the aunt found that she could not do anything about her husband's illness and death. The cancer recurrence of the eldest daughter is like an opportunity and rescue granted by God, allowing this family to learn how to love again. Sometimes, a family member suffers like a scapegoat, in order to save other families and be treated in the process.

After the grandma was unhappy, through the singular sexual expression of the husband's leave and the gold she prepared, the daughters can fully feel the love between father and mother. By also preparing a gold medal for the three daughters, the home that was originally flawed due to the absence of her husband and three daughters was replenished.

Finally, the aunt also let herself go and no longer live under the framework of customs. She asked Ms. Cai, who shared a common religious belief with her husband, to attend the ceremony as a family member, and to mourn in a way that she liked and was suitable for her. She sat in the back seat of the bus, singing the songs she once sang with her husband, as if reconnecting with her husband.

We will experience birth, old age, sickness and death, life and death, and tragic separation throughout our lives. These "external object-based loss" are uncontrollable and are the loss that will inevitably occur in life. What can be changed and controlled is "inner sensible loss", which is how we view the state of loss and mood.

The traditional culture of Chinese people is full of demands, and everyone is looking forward to success, fullness and success, but eight or nine out of ten situations in life are unsuccessful, not fullness and failure. "Life and death", "Birth, old age, sickness and death", "My grief and separation" are inevitable that everyone cannot escape. Not only does not stop the loss from happening, it will also make us gradually unable to feel the love around us. When we don’t accept the loss, we will not be able to accept the loss and tragedy brought by the loss. While separating the feelings of loss and tragedy, we will also ignore the love we originally were.

Only as you actually accept the loss in life, and regard loss as a part of life, is the necessity of life. If we truly accept the "birth, separation, death, birth, old age, sickness, death, and tragic separation" in life, and no longer slapped or resisted, we can see through our loss that the love that originally existed in our body and in our hearts. Only by "Single Flavor" is the lyrics of the theme song "Spring, summer, autumn and winter" that "flowers bloom and thank the house flavor".