Don t like unintentional greetings and silence are art... Maybe you also have the "Finland personality" that silently exudes charm

"Silence is more beneficial to socializing than insincere words." —— French philosopher Michel de Montaigne

"How have you been recently?" "No, what about you?" In the modern society with rapid pace, asking the cold to warm sometimes seems to be a "routine business". You have to ask each other quickly first. In order to preserve their privacy, some people may also choose to use "I'm fine." to bring them lightly. When people traveling back and forth between the gatherings, sometimes or maybe they will find that in fact, they do not really enjoy talking with others and being clean. Do you know? There is a country in the world who doesn’t like to greet, chat, and is proud of “silence”.

Silence is gold, and opening is silver. "——Finland common sayings

In the impression of many people, Finns always seem to have a calm expression. Unless important times or topics, even in cafes, restaurants and queues, there are few sights of Finns chatting with each other. Even when the Finns are waiting for the bus, they will stand around the bus booth to maintain a comfortable social distance for each other. However, Finns are not born to be tempted by others. The frank national character of Finns can actually be understood more deeply from their complex "language culture".

The official language of Finnish is Finnish and Swedish, and they also start learning English at the age of 6 or 7. Therefore, most Finnish people often need to change the second foreign language in their brains when talking. At this time, they may worry that the words they express cannot be fully understood by the other party, so they choose nothing. Compared with casual chatting without destinations, Finnish people pay more attention to the in-depth conversation and human relations of "intentionality".

In most English countries, when we come to ask waiters with "How are you?", we often receive a simple reply like "I’m fine. Thank you." However, in Finland, we use the Finnish word "Mitä" with "Hello?" kuuluu? "When you ask someone, you usually expect to get a "real" answer. People who are asked will often start to share their recent situations in their lives, including what new things have happened and how they have been doing recently. This feeling is like, "When I care about whether you have done well or not, it means that I really care about your life and everything about you." Because of this, an interesting joke is spread in Finland: "A Finland man loves his girlfriend so much that he told her everything."

Before getting to know a Finlander, he might not know whether he should continue to communicate with him because of his indifferent image. But in modern society where communication steps between people become more and more intense and efficient, Finnish silence is like a "dialogue blank" left behind by slowing down the dialogue, which seems to allow people to think more carefully about the meaning behind the conversation, and even the possible impact. After further understanding and in-depth exchanges with the Finns, you may also find that it is the Finns' silence that makes the meaning of this communication more special and intriguing. When we enjoy the tranquility of our conversation, or perhaps we can calm our hearts down, the relationship between people becomes unique and precious.